If you are drowning in PMO/edging (PMOE) addiction you have come to the right place! After 20+ years of active PMOE addiction, many attempts to quit followed by many relapses, after many victories and many bottoms, I have discovered a way to break free and build a life that is more compelling than PMOE addiction. This blog will teach you the exact methods I use to stay PMOE free for long stretches at a time (progress not perfection!) and to build a life of purpose that is way more compelling than the harem of phantoms porn has to offer.
If you are disciplined and fully commit to implementing the techniques I share in the below articles you too will break from from PMOE addiction, Finally see PMOE for what it is (a thief of life and of self), reclaim your identity, get the light back in your eyes, and find your true purpose in life. You absolutely can do this, you need only to be fully committed and willing to take action and to face your problems head on.
I promise you that there is life without PMOE that is more fulfilling and deep than anything you can imagine. You will reconnect with yourself in a way you forgot existed, you will have deep meaningful connections with others, you will find pleasure in things that used to feel mundane, and you will have an energy and focus that will enable you to build a life of meaning and purpose that matters to you (seriously, this entire blog all came into existence because of my new found clarity and focus, that was absent for years due to my active PMOE career) .
Scroll down to the bottom of this page and start at the beginning, you will find immediate action steps to implement. Be patient with yourself, this is a journey, be serious and consistent with implementing the action steps after each article, and before you know it you will be a new man and feel totally different than you have for the last however many years (I had not been connected with myself for the last 10+ years and felt I had nothing to contribute to life or to others, it wasn't until I made my final stand against PMOE that I regained myself and my life back).
This is the fight of your life, this will not be easy, but you have everything to gain by committing to the fight. Porn has nothing to offer you besides a fleeting escape, and has the potential to destroy your life. If you are like me you have already pursued PMOE to the precipice of destruction. I was standing at a crossroad in my life in the beginning of 2025, do I fully commit to my PMOE addiction and continue to escalate until something truly bad happens or do I finally say “enough is enough” and commit to change no matter how difficult? Deep down inside I know that if I do not deal with my PMOE addiction once and for all, I will not only destroy my life and lose my family, but I will take my last breaths in regret of never becoming the man I knew I could be.
This is your final stand, this is you saying that you will no longer be a slave to PMO, this is where you step into your true manhood and reclaim what is yours. Commit fully right now to do whatever it takes to become free of PMO and to face your problems head on regardless of how uncomfortable or painful it will be. Implement the action steps laid out in this blog with consistency and vigor, no excuses, no back doors, no bull shit. Burn the boats as you progress in your journey, going back to your old life is not an option, the old man is dead, IT is time to rise and become the man you truly want to be deep down inside.
I wish you the best of luck on your journey, know that you are not alone on this journey, I am alongside you in the trenches fighting each day to grow and to build a life of purpose and meaning. I wish you nothing but the best on your journey and I hope to speak to you sometime in the future.
11. PMO Relapse and how to leverage them
Relapsed on your PMOE recovery journey? You're not alone—and it's not the end. In this raw, honest post, I share my own 2025 slips amid unprecedented progress, proving that perfection isn't the goal; relentless growth is. Learn how to ditch self-shame, halt binges fast, journal triggers (from immediate urges to months-long escalations), and craft a bulletproof plan to fortify your defenses.
9. Plan your day and night
Plan Your Day & Night – Discover the exact morning and evening routines that eliminate idle time, starve PMO urges, and build rock-solid discipline for lasting freedom.
8. Know your triggers
Knowing your exact PMO triggers is the difference between staying free for life and relapsing for the hundredth time. Most men fail because they “kinda know” what sets them off but never write it down or build a real counter-attack—leaving the door wide open when rejection hits, when they’re alone at their desk, sick in bed, or the wife’s out for hours.
7. Monk Mode
After endless failed quits and crushing relapses, one brutal truth emerged: only full Monk Mode delivers freedom from PMO. No porn, no masturbation, no orgasms, no social media, games, scrolling, or excuses—zero compromises. I went all-in with cold showers, intense workouts, meditation, journaling, clean eating, and raw accountability. In just 30 days, I transformed: confidence exploded, energy surged, focus sharpened like never before, and I crushed problems I'd ignored for years. PMO stole my life; Monk Mode gave it back.
6. Do not miss your exit
You've poured weeks or months into building momentum—prayers, meditation, workouts, clean eating, journaling—all leading to that one electrifying morning when a rare window cracks open in your soul, whispering: this is it, the moment you can finally say no to PMO and step into freedom. Miss it, and the next relapse could drag you to a bottom you never imagined; seize it, and you ignite the fight of your life—a brutal, glorious reckoning where you face every demon, shatter every excuse, and rebuild yourself from the ground up.
5. Stack Positive Momentum
By incorporating two foundational habits—prioritizing protein and healthy fats while cutting sugar, carbs, and seed oils, alongside 3–4 weekly workouts scheduled through a free or paid Fitness Blender account—you’ll ignite positive momentum even while still engaging with PMO. Start small if needed: swap one unhealthy meal for a nutrient-dense option or begin with 5–10-minute sessions; perfection isn’t the goal, but consistency in treating your body well is. These changes cultivate discipline, elevate mood, and build a compelling life that naturally outshines the temporary escape of addiction, accelerating your path to lasting freedom.
4. Brutal self honesty about your PMO career
If you've relapsed countless times, romanticizing that "one last peek" at a favorite star's smile or convincing yourself it's just healthy appreciation of beauty, only to spiral into shameful binges that cost you sleep, intimacy, money, self-respect, and nearly your marriage, family, and freedom—then it's time to stop lying to yourself and face the brutal, unfiltered truth of your PMO addiction.
3. Fully experience your goon sesh
Deep in an edging session, surrounded by shameful content, have you ever noticed the quiet voice screaming inside: “I’m miserable, I hate this, I just want it to stop”—while your hand keeps moving, your energy plummets, your mind fogs over, and disappointment floods every cell? That’s the tantric truth of PMO most addicts ignore: it’s not pleasure, it’s numbness, boredom, and self-betrayal disguised as a high.
2. Be Mindful about masturbating
For years I dismissed mindfulness as fluffy New-Age nonsense—guided meditations and glowing orbs did nothing for me—until Zen Buddhism and daily Zazen cracked the code: a real, tangible gap between urge and action that finally let me pause the PMO autopilot and choose differently.
1. Say Grace before you jerk it
Say a prayer before you stroke yourself off. Even if you are neck deep in active PMO addiction, you can begin to practice this technique which will eventually lead to an exit point. Before, during, and after a long gooning sesh, pause and say this prayer.
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Your life force is under siege: every unchecked PMO session drains the fire from your eyes, the passion from your voice, the depth from your relationships, and the power to live with real purpose, while the porn machine feasts on your attention and future. This no-frills blog is your battle plan: deliberately plain, distraction-free, and built like a real book so your dopamine-starved brain can finally focus on truth instead of cheap hits.